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115 Self-Love Quotes That Will Change Your Perspective on Life

From catchy pop songs to corny slogans, self-love often feels like nothing more than a marketing ploy. Well, we believe otherwise—and our list of 115 powerful self-love quotes is proof. 

Self Love Quotes

The Importance of Self Love

In a world of humble bragging and social media flexing, many of us try and fail to measure up to an impossible standard. 

Whether it’s our job, appearance, or achievements, something about who we are or what we do is never “good enough”. As a result, genuine self-love and self-confidence feel unattainable. In their place, we get accustomed to perfectionism, clouding how we perceive ourselves.

But perfectionist thinking isn’t just unrealistic; it’s also deeply unhealthy

If you struggle with self-love, try to think of it as a skill or habit. You have to practice it before you can believe in it. By practicing self-love, you learn how to appreciate your experiences, flaws, and features, as something unique and worthy of praise.

To help you out on your self-love journey, we’ve collected a whopping 115 quotes to inspire confidence and self-respect. For more positive messages and affirmations, check out our favorite family quotes and life quotes

13  Best Self Love Quotes

Life may be greener on the other side for some people, but it’s important to remember that we all share experiences. Personal challenges, like low self-esteem or poor self-image, are very common. Whether it’s an unhappy home life, relationship woes, or lack of friends, no one’s life is truly perfect. And that’s okay.

If you’re struggling with your self-esteem, check out this list of amazing self-love quotes. From major confidence boosters to gentle affirmations, any one of these quotes can be a great pick-me-up for bad days:

1. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

2. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

3. “You are free, you are powerful, you are good, you are love, you have value, you have a purpose. All is well.” – Abraham Hicks

4. “Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.” – Dan Coppersmith

5. “You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” – Rumi

6. “Fall in love with taking care of yourself. Fall in love with the path of deep healing. Fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself but with patience, with compassion, and respect to your own journey.” – S. McNutt

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8. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha

7. “Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.” – Helen Keller

9. “As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know this is ‘authenticity.’” – Charlie Chaplin

10. “When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits—anything that kept me small.  My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.” – Kim McMillen

11. “Your sense of self-worth comes from you alone—never the opinion of others.” – Robert Greene

12. “We do not have the right to feel helpless. We must help ourselves. After destiny has delivered what it delivers, we are responsible for our lives.” – Cheryl Strayed

13. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

14 Self Love Quotes From the Greats


Self Love Quotes From the Greats

Poets and authors have been writing about love since the creation of the written language. No other topic has received as much literary attention as love in all its forms — romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and, of course, self-love. 

Many have done it well, but few have explored self-love with the same majesty as the creative geniuses we’ve unearthed for this list.

Take a page out of the greats and nurture self-confidence with these 14 self-love quotes: 

14.“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde

15. “I must undertake to love myself and to respect myself as though my very life depends upon self-love and self-respect.” – Maya Angelou

16. “The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.” – E.E. Cummings

17. “And I said to my body, ‘I want to be your friend.’ It took a long breath. And replied, ‘I have been waiting my whole life for this.” – Nayyirah Waheed

18. “Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself—what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat.” – Warsan Shire

19. “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” – Mark Twain

20. “Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another.” – Toni Morrison

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21. “This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been.” – Glennon Doyle

22. “You have to choose yourself, even when others refuse to.” – R. H. Sin

23. “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” – C.S. Lewis

24. “You must want to spend the rest of your life with yourself first.” – Rupi Kaur

25. “You have to be odd to be number one.” – Dr. Seuss

26. “I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.” – Charlotte Brontë

27. “Let it go, let it leave, let it happen. Nothing in this world was promised or belonged to you anyway.” – Rupi Kaur

17 Self Love Quotes From Our Idols

Self Love Quotes From Our Idols

People in the limelight live their lives under a microscope. Therefore, it’s no wonder that many of the celebrities we idolize struggle with their self-image.

Some have spoken about their experiences while others have shared their wisdom through art or movies.

From childhood heroes to the biggest names in Hollywood, here are 17 self-love quotes from our favorite celebrities:

28. “If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.” – Fred Rogers

29. “If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.” – Beyoncé

30. “I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.” – Madonna

31. “I think no matter what you look like, the key first of all is to be happy with yourself. And then you know if you want to improve things you don’t like about yourself, then do it after you appreciate yourself.” – Adele

32. “It’s you versus you.” – Dwayne Johnson

33. “Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.” – Princess Diana

34. “I think in life you should work on yourself until the day you die.” – Serena Williams

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35. “Nobody is perfect. I just don’t believe in perfection. But I do believe in saying, ‘This is who I am and look at me not being perfect!’ I’m proud of that.” – Kate Winslet

36. “You change the world by being yourself.” – Yoko Ono

37. “One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” – Michael J. Fox

38. “Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.” – Tyra Banks

39. “I try to keep it real. I don’t have time to worry about what I’m projecting to the world. I’m just busy being myself.” – Demi Lovato

40. “When life puts you in touchy situations, don’t say, ‘Why me?’ Just say, ‘Try me.’” – Dwayne Johnson

41. “I’m not going to apologize for who I am and I’m going to actually love the skin that I’m in. I’m not gonna be striving for some other version of myself.” – Amy Schumer

42. “Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” – Dolly Parton

43. “You ain’t gotta like me. I like me.” – Kanye West

44. “I remind myself to be kind to myself, and as slightly ridiculous as it may sound, to treat myself in the same gentle way I’d want to treat a daughter of mine. It really helps.” – Emma Stone

For more famous quotes, check out our favorite Tupac Shakur quotes, MLK Jr. quotes, and Dalai Lama quotes.

12 Self Love Quotes for Women

Self Love Quotes For Women

Self-love has been a major theme in women’s media for decades.

Sometimes it’s little more than a marketing tactic (we shan’t name any brands here), while at other times, the message is genuine and heartfelt.

Either way, self-appreciation has inspired many anthems, songs, books, and quotes for women. From beloved heroines, such as the late RBG, to trailblazing poets like Maya Angelou, these 12 self-love quotes are truly empowering:

45. “My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant be your own person, be independent.” – Ruth Bader Ginsburg

46. “I was once afraid of people saying ‘Who does she think she is?’ Now I have the courage to stand and say, ‘This is who I am.” – Oprah Winfrey

47. “Self-worth sets the standard that life meets.” – Jewel

48. “When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is easier.” – Diane Von Furstenberg

49. “In stressful times, it’s okay to not be perfect. Cut yourself some slack. Because right now, you might not be your best self, but you are growing and you are trying your best. And that is good enough.” – Ashley Hetherington

50. “Your crown has been bought and paid for. Put it on your head and wear it.” – Maya Angelou

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51. “I had to grow to love my body. I did not have a good self-image at first. Finally, it occurred to me, I’m either going to love me or hate me. And I chose to love myself.” – Queen Latifah

52. “She remembered who she was and the game changed.” – Lalah Delia

53. “If we treated ourselves as well as we treated our best friend, can you imagine?” – Meghan Markle

54. “Being comfortable in your own skin is one of the most important things to achieve. I’m still working on it!” – Kate Mara

55. “You have to believe in yourself when no one else does—that makes you a winner right here.” – Venus Williams

56. “It’s really about changing the conversation. It’s not about perfection. It’s about purpose. We have to care about our bodies and what we put in them. Women have to take the time to focus on our mental health—take time for self, for the spiritual, without feeling guilty or selfish. The world will see you the way you see you, and treat you the way you treat yourself.” – Beyoncé

11 Self Love Quotes for Men

Self Love Quotes For Men

It’s important for men to feel loved and valued, too. This means learning how to appreciate yourself and healthily working through insecurities. 

We know that this might be a long and difficult journey for some gents—so we’ve gathered 11 self-love quotes from legendary men to inspire our male readers:

57. “I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.” – Frederick Douglass

58. “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” – Carl Gustav Jung

59. “In your own life, it’s important to know how spectacular you are.” – Steve Maraboli

60. “Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.” – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

61. “So then, the relationship of self to others is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.” – Alan Watts

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62. “A person learns how to love himself through the simple acts of loving and being loved by someone else.” – Haruki Murakami

63. “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” – Lao Tzu

64. “If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” – Charles Bukowski

65. “Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others.” – Wilfred Peterson

66. “It isn’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”- W.C. Fields

67. “They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them.” – Mahatma Gandhi

16 Self Love Quotes For People in Relationships

Self Love Quotes For Couples

While it’s possible (and normal!) to love others more than you might love yourself, people in relationships should never undervalue their own self-worth.

In fact, by nurturing self-love, you can become a more nurturing and affectionate partner.

As you begin to practice self-love, you or your significant other can learn from these 16 self-love quotes:

68. “You deserve someone who makes you feel like the otherworldly creature you are. Yourself.” – Amanda Lovelace

69. “It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.” – Eartha Kitt

70. “All relationships are a reflection of your relationship with yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

71. “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” – Rupi Kaur

72. “Be single and save yourself for a relationship that motivates you to become the best version of yourself. Be single until you find a love that resembles the type of love you’ve been fighting for.” – R.H. Sin

73. “Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.” – Beyoncé

74. “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” – Anna Taylor

75. “Self-love is an ocean and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.” – Beau Taplin

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76. “Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” – Louise Hay

77. “No other love, no matter how genuine it is, can fulfill one’s heart better than unconditional self-love.” – Edmond Mbiaka

78. “Nothing else falls into line when you’re cold to your own person. Everything else falls into line when you open your heart to yourself and stay true to your own person.” – Unknown

79. “Respect is one of the greatest expressions of love.” – Miguel Angel Ruiz

80. “A self-love deficit isn’t what will bring you joy. The wrong mental attitude can be devastating in the world. If you have true self-esteem and high self-love you can share that love with the world around you. To love oneself is to love the world and a person learns that only when they show themselves the kindness they deserve.” – Unknown

81. “Scarcity of self-value cannot be remedied by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence.” – Gary Zukav

82. “Don’t fall into the trap of sacrificing your self-esteem for affection and acceptance.” – Ashley Graham

83. “Love is about becoming the right person. Don’t look for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, become the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.” – Neil Strauss

17 Short Self Love Quotes

Sometimes, less is more. Below, we’ve collected 17 short quotes for those times you when you could use a gentle reminder to love yourself:

84. “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” – Coco Chanel

85. “Love is the absence of judgment.” – Dalai Lama

86. “The only person I need to compare myself to is my yesterday self.” – Allison Sue

87. “Feel the fact that you are enough.” – Mark Nepo

88. “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” – Rupi Kaur

89. “Loving yourself isn’t vanity; it’s sanity.” – Katrina Mayer

90. “Respect yourself and others will respect you.” – Confucius

91. “You are what you believe yourself to be.” – Paulo Coelho

92. “Self-love is the greatest middle finger of all time.” – Unknown

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Short self-love quotes

93. “It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.” – Sally Field

94. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” – Stephen Chbosky

95. “Until I’m ready, let me be. I have to heal myself.” – Samantha King

96. “Self-care is giving the world the best you instead of what’s left of you.” – Katie Reed

97. “Doubt kills more dreams than failure.” – Suzy Kassem

98. “Keep watering yourself. You’re growing.” – E.Russell

99. “I am more than my scars.” – Andrew Davidson

100. “When things change inside you, things change around you.” – Unknown

15 More Motivational Self Love Quotes 

Motivational Self Love Quotes

Before we conclude this article, let’s take a moment to share a few more of our favorite self-love quotes.

Although you may not recognize some of these passages, they’re nevertheless powerful quotes to keep in mind as you embark on your journey of self-love. 

101. “Self-care is never a selfish act; it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” – Parker Palmer

102. “Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one’s best.” – Harry Emerson Fosdick

103. “Be so completely yourself that everyone else feels safe to be themselves, too.” – Unknown

104. “Inner beauty should be the most important part of improving one’s self.” – Priscilla Presley

105. “Self-love—it doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you.” – Tony A. Gaskins Jr.

106. “The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” – C. Joybell C.

107. “The real difficulty in self-love is combating the inner critic who goes against our own wishes by challenging our own beliefs. You know you’re worthy of love, but the critic keeps reminding you of the past pain that you can’t let go of.” – Unknown

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108. “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz

109. “The right mental attitude will guide you towards feeling a sense of love that you deserve to experience.” – Unknown

110. “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” – Brené Brown

111. “Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they don’t need the approval of others.” – Roy T. Bennett

112. “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen

113. “When you stop living your life based on what others think of you, real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened.” – Shannon L. Alder

114. “All the filth in your mind that tells you that you aren’t worthy or good enough is the reason why you’re not experiencing self-love in a healthy sense.” – Unknown

115. “In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.” – Andrea Dykstra

Final Thoughts on Self Love Quotes

Developing self-love is easier said than done. It takes time and patience to realize your self-worth, and even longer to build up the confidence to live an authentic, fulfilling lifestyle. 

As you go on your self-love journey, remember to look back on our list of self-love quotes. Although they may be simple words on a page, they offer profound wisdom and a much-needed confidence boost for those struggling with low self-esteem.

Which was your favorite quote? What have you learned from self-love? Feel free to share in the comments below!